Fact: The first three months of any relationship don’t count.
It’s true.
That’s the time in which you’re still being wooed with flowers, chocolates, and awesome dates. You’re still playing the “I’m hard to get” game, and both sides take extra caution to not let their “true colors” show. And then, after the break up, we say “But the first few months were so different…”
Yeah. There’s a reason. And the reason is, the real person you’re dating doesn’t fully emerge until right around that 90 day mark. That’s not always a bad thing-it’s important to put your best foot forward. As long as you’re aware that it takes time to differentiate between how they want you to see them and who they actually are.
But it’s okay, we’ve all been there. Dating is hard and it can be exhausting-And let’s face it, anyone who says dating isn’t a game has probably been married too long to remember. Don’t listen to them.
But I must admit, there is something to be said for being single-you still have that hope of what’s to come. You still get to have first kisses and first dates, you get the whole bed to yourself sans the snoring, and you can look forward to that moment when you meet the ever-so-elusive “one.”
I do have moments where I think it would be nice to have a boyfriend, but I also realize that at some point in my future life I will probably look back and miss the freedom of being single. I might even wish I had treasured those moments more while they were happening.
And in all honesty, I’ve always thought my life is pretty freaking great. No boyfriend required.
Want to check out some of my favorite dating posts? Here ya go:
I like your take on being single – the hope, the fun, the independence. All so true. I’m married now and love it, but have fond memories of all the drama and excitement that came with dating.
Ahhh yes, there is always drama. Haha
Thank you for the comment!